An apple a day keeps the doctor away as they say, but why have we now become obsessed with the names of fruit and vegetables? Pink Lady® is a registered trademarked apple and commands a high price for its sweet white flesh and pink skin, it overshadows the grossly understated Discovery which although is smaller in size its my personal favourite. In England there are a great number of heritage apple varieties which have long been ignored, to me it seems that the inherent reason is because they don’t fit the regulatory moulds that most ‘standard’ green and red apples, they are not always consistent in size and can be somewhat ‘wonky’ for want of a better word. The only consistently available British brand is the “Cox” apple which although smaller in size to its international compatriots generally grows to a uniform size. Absolute perfection is perceived in the eye of the beholder, its almost impossible because we all feel differently about different things, whats perfect to some is not to others.
Its a shame that we demand perfection from everyone and everything, we hold others to higher standards to ourselves, we as the audience fuel the media by reading their judgemental propaganda, celebrities suffer the most in the public eye and in extreme cases like the case of Caroline Flack’s suicide I think the media need to be held accountable for their despicable actions. It is gratifying to discover that 2 of the local hair and beauty salons near me have banned gossip magazines from their reading pile for customers. A fabulous move in the fight to stand up to the media, magazine distribution companies will be forced to challenge the content of the spurious material it is dispensing. I can only hope that more will do the same, this multi-million business will have to find another way to make its tainted money, I take issue with the fact that most of the columnists are women as well, if they asked themselves how would I feel if I read this about myself how many of the articles and pieces would actually get printed, how they would cope with the paparazzi hounding them for pictures and people clamouring for reasons why despite being normal like us they aren’t perfect. Safe to say the women who read it as well might take a look in the mirror and ask themselves why they take joy in seeing other people publicly tortured, they are enabled to place judgement on people, they might be famous but it doesnt make them immortal. It doesnt just happen to celebrities people are trolled on social media everyday, its not just children we need to be protecting from cyber bullying its adults as well, they may not be seeing it everyday in printed media but to see it daily in black and white, the stream of notifications clogging up their screen.
If you struggle with any of the issues in this article please talk to someone.
There are useful helplines and websites available now.
Samaritans (116 123) operates a 24-hour service available every day of the year. If you prefer to write down how you’re feeling, or if you’re worried about being overheard on the phone, you can email Samaritans at firstname.lastname@example.org .
Childline (0800 1111) runs a helpline for children and young people in the UK. Calls are free and the number won’t show up on your phone bill.
PAPYRUS (0800 068 41 41) is a voluntary organisation supporting teenagers and young adults.
Depression Alliance is a charity for people with depression. It doesn’t have a helpline, but offers a wide range of useful resources and links to other relevant information. http://www.depressionalliance.org/
Students Against Depression is a website for students who are depressed, have a low mood or are having suicidal thoughts. Bullying UK is a website for both children and adults affected by bullying. http://studentsagainstdepression.org/
The Sanctuary (0300 003 7029) operates a 24-hour service available every day of the year, for people who are struggling to cope – experiencing depression, anxiety, panic attacks or in crisis.
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